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May 26
4 min

Can't Sleep? Try These 10 Things

When you are stressed to the max, your body thinks you’re in danger and keeps you awake. Your logical mind knows, of course, that you don...

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It's Possible to Get Divorced in California This Year

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Apr 25
1 min

It's Possible to Get Divorced in California This Year

COVID-19 has changed everything, including how couples proceed with their divorces in California. With the courts closed, mediation and c...

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Random Acts of Kindness Christmas Tree II - What is an ROAK?

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Dec 7, 2019
1 min

Random Acts of Kindness Christmas Tree II - What is an ROAK?

Here's the second video in this series. :-)

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The Random Acts of Kindness Christmas Tree

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Nov 30, 2019
1 min

The Random Acts of Kindness Christmas Tree

Word has gotten out about this tradition, which I started during my own divorce. So many people have asked me to say more about it! So, I...

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"Why Do I Need Such a BIG Team for my Collaborative Divorce??"

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Oct 9, 2019
2 min

"Why Do I Need Such a BIG Team for my Collaborative Divorce??"

Collaborative divorce is all about having a great team.

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Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

May 28, 2019
1 min

Why I Work in Collaborative Divorce

For me, it's all about the kids.

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Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Oct 31, 2018
3 min

Feeling Stressed about the Holidays?

One helpful way to look at stress is to think of it as a buildup in your body of the chemicals your brain puts out every time you have to...

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Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Oct 18, 2018
1 min

Building Trust About Money in Divorce

Are you afraid your ex will hide assets or use other tricks to cheat you out of your share of your community property? If so, you're not ...

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You Should Be...Guilty! How to Break the Cycle of Shame

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Sep 21, 2018
3 min

You Should Be...Guilty! How to Break the Cycle of Shame

I see the destructive cycle of shame almost every day as a child therapist. Example: One of my young clients was traumatized by a bullyin...

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Divorce is Stressful! Here’s How to Take Care of Yourself

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Sep 6, 2018
3 min

Divorce is Stressful! Here’s How to Take Care of Yourself

Every time you have to make a decision, or experience a strong feeling, your brain sends out "stress hormones" to the rest of your body. ...

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Helping Children to Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Jun 8, 2018
2 min

Helping Children to Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

So, I went zip-lining in the redwoods recently. Imagine me with hands on hips, like a cowboy in chaps, cooling surveying the toe of my bo...

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Rebuilding After Divorce: How Children Overcome Trauma

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Apr 14, 2018
2 min

Rebuilding After Divorce: How Children Overcome Trauma

Children can be quite resilience. After a major change or loss, though, they need time and space to play and rebuild. About a year ago, I...

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Betrayal: How Can I Feel Right Again After What I've Done?

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Apr 13, 2018
3 min

Betrayal: How Can I Feel Right Again After What I've Done?

So, you blew it. You made a mistake which has deeply hurt someone you once loved. There were all kinds of good reasons why you did what y...

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How Could You Do This To Me?
Healing after Betrayal

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Apr 12, 2018
2 min

How Could You Do This To Me? Healing after Betrayal

Even small betrayals are felt deep in the soul. Big betrayals, betrayals by the people we care the most about or are the most committed t...

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On Love and Screens and Whether They Can Coexist

Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Apr 7, 2018
2 min

On Love and Screens and Whether They Can Coexist

I visited my doctor recently, and she shared with me her frustration about the new regulations requiring doctors to keep electronic recor...

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Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Apr 7, 2018
5 min

Playing With Death

We don’t have a good way of explaining death to children in our culture anymore. We don’t talk about death. We try to pretend that it nev...

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Beth Proudfoot, LMFT

Apr 2, 2018
2 min

Everything Changes

The yoga guru Sri Sri Ravi Shankar describes life’s journey as a bus ride. We don’t get a group ticket. Each of us has our own point of o...

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